What is Love? What it is not is fear, for fear triggers separation and isolation, which then triggers self-inadequacy, self-superiority, self-righteousness, self-judgment, judgement of others, anger, and unforgiveness towards self and others, and it goes on. Imagine all that from just one emotion we call fear. Fear is like a domino effect.

Our happiness depends on us, on our way of responding to events, not on other people. Our suffering also depends on us. Knowing this, we no longer blame or complain; we are determined to begin anew with ourselves. Because another opportunity is presenting itself.

— Thich Nhat Hanh. “In Love and Trust”